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Nope-never have | 11 | 12.22% | |
Nope-in recovery from one or both | 14 | 15.56% | |
Yes-all day, everyday! | 40 | 44.44% | |
**** off | 25 | 27.78% | |
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12-20-2020, 07:19 PM | #201 |
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Excuse any typos because I have the shakes and I'm lazy at spellcheck. I skipped over this thread a few times but read it all over the past few hours and it's been an interesting, mostly good read. Irish in particular, I was rooting for you early on in the thread and I'm very happy to see your regular updates throughout the thread. Congratulations to you! I've been a fairly heavy drinker for the past few years for various excuses. It turned into self medication, then a "pull" at social gatherings, to the point where I'm reaching for a drink the moment I get home. I can't feel a buzz anymore and don't realize when I'm drunk. My epiphany was last night when self harm thoughts crept in again, while I'm watching my kids of all things. I don't have control of this anymore. Last night was my last drink. I don't think I'm going to make it through the holidays so I'm setting the 4th as my sober date. I informed a few close friends, as embarrassing as that was, and my brother. A couple were supportive, a couple were dismissive. I guess I know who won't be around pretty soon. I made arrangements to give away my large selection of alcohol because I can't stand wasting it. Hopefully this pans out well...
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12-21-2020, 04:01 AM | #202 | |||
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Lot's to unpack in that post, but overall, congrats. Looks like you've hit a turning point.
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The stopping of drinking is really just the beginning. Lots of hard (but rewarding) work ahead. Seek out others who've gone through this (here or in-person). Lastly, find something to occupy your time. Find a healthy hobby, get fit, volunteer your time. You'd be surprised how much of your time you've been wasting being drunk. |
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12-21-2020, 05:42 AM | #203 |
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It seems weird at first but saying no to people will quickly become intuitive.
Tony really nails it with his post so I dont have anything else to say but good luck and welcome. |
12-21-2020, 01:29 PM | #204 |
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12-21-2020, 06:07 PM | #205 |
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I agree with everything Tony said too, though if you are having tremors a medical detox may be needed to prevent a seizure. No offense but thinking you can suddenly control it partially until the 4th and ween yourself is just lying to yourself. Not that anyone wants to spend the holidays at a hospital it would be the safest means of getting it out of your system. Dont feel ashamed if people you feel are your friends or even your family members are against your decision, I know many people who can attest that either they come around to it eventually or on the other hand are upset because now their drinking may be more noticed. Glad you decided to join us, it takes a lot of courage to admit you have a problem and even more courage to change. Best of luck.
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12-22-2020, 03:48 AM | #206 | |
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12-22-2020, 04:14 AM | #207 | |
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Get help now, call your mom or your best friend, hell man go to the hospital and get checked in. Do whatever it takes to get straight again before it is all gone. You can do it, but you have to want to do it. Figure it out, and do it now. Don't bs yourself anymore, you are an alcoholic and you are losing everything. People care for you, your children care for you, heck even ot wants you to be well. Because you are posting on a public forum, you are crying out for help. Now go get help. |
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1. You don't really have much in common other than drinking; and 2. They don't want to admit that you have a problem, because that means that they have a problem. Not trying to be a downer, but keep these in mind if any friends are dismissive. |
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12-22-2020, 10:41 AM | #210 |
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Watch this. It's about the neurology of addiction. I am not sure why, but it came up for free, and I had to pay for it 18 months ago. If you can figure out a way, it's pretty enlightening if you get past the melodrama there to keep an addict's attention. Schick Shadel would get you through ceasing. Part of the treatment is aversion therapy and I would personally want to check into wtf that is all about. Anabuse prescription (Anabuse makes it impossible for you to drink without ridiculous nausea) or clockwork orange ****? |
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12-22-2020, 04:53 PM | #212 | |
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12-22-2020, 06:42 PM | #213 |
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If at 4 days the withdrawal symptoms have passed then the first hard part is over. Now the next hard part is to make a decision not to drink today under any and all circumstances. When tomorrow comes, once again the hard part will be making the same decision. Just remember not to think about it as quitting drinking for the rest of your life, just don't drink one day at a time. It is overwhelming enough to do 1 day let alone plan out a lifetime, if need be just tell yourself I will not drink for one hour and when the hour passes do it again. Find other sober people to talk to about things, healthy hobbies to occupy your time, and focus on all the things you CAN do today instead of the ONE thing you can't do, before you know it things will be getting better.
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01-01-2021, 10:20 AM | #214 |
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How'd everyone make it through New Years?
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01-01-2021, 10:32 AM | #215 |
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It's been close to 6 years for me, and I get nauseated when I think about drinking. I don't remember a lot of things from about 5 years prior, but I do remember that sometimes I had to have a drink, but I knew I was going to puke the first one then wait long enough to be able to keep the second one down. I just plan have an aversion, not through therapy though.
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01-01-2021, 11:33 AM | #216 |
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I drank a lot in HS. Quit when I turned 21. Started up again in my mid twenties having a few beers out at the bars on the weekends but I'd see how stupid it made people and the hangovers were way more tough to get over than when I was 16 so I quit again. Haven't had a sip since . It's something I'll never do again in this lifetime.
I can't find the original story but when I first got into Hinduism and Buddhism I came across someone asking if it's ok to drink alcohol and the tale went something like "A Buddhist monk leaves the Temple and goes into town to beg for his daily meal (they don't cook or farm themselves) . A woman doesn't have a cooked meal to offer him but says "I have only three things I can give you, you can come home with me and I have myself to offer for the night (monks abstain from sex) , you can kill my goat for a meal (monks can eat meat if it's previously killed for other reasons and offered to them but not if it's killed on the spot specifically for them to eat) or you can have this bottle of wine (drinking is not allowed). The monk decides drinking the wine is the least detrimental and takes her up on the offer. The next morning he wakes up naked next to the woman and sees on the dinner table left over goat and an empty bottle of wine. Drinking had led to making multiple bad decisions where one glass led to 6 and after getting drunk they killed the goat for dinner and then had sex. Most people would laugh and see this is a good thing, but for others they see the real meaning behind the story. |
01-01-2021, 01:31 PM | #217 |
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01-01-2021, 03:01 PM | #218 |
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That's awesome to hear. Glad to see you're managing a difficult time pretty well.
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01-01-2021, 08:31 PM | #219 |
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Congratulations! Yes, it's not easy and more so if you willingly put yourself in situations where alcohol is in sight let alone arms reach, but now you know you can live without it today. As for how making it through the new year for me, piece of cake, spent new years eve on zoom with many sober friends laughing and playing games until midnight, then we all signed off shortly after and slept a good night. Eventually ended up at one of the friends homes today and a few of us all had a great dinner and more laughs. Once you find a good sober group of friends it will be far more enjoyable than any of the drunk times were.
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One month in after hitting relative bottom of 4 days in the hospital with severe acute pancreatitis after 20+years of steady drinking and unhealthy eating. I'm past Christmas and past New Years and all is well. I wish I could have a glass of wine with the girl NYE etc. Or the afternoon after work drink with a buddy, but I have a feeling I know how that will turn out, so just taking it for what it is right now. Dry is the word.
Back to lurk mode. Good luck and stay safe all. The encouragement and stories have been helpful. I have been in this thread many times, and closed it quickly, probably out of guilt and "not me" mentality. But it is me... reality is a bitch sometimes. |
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Family has been supportive, health is improving, but I peaked with 20lbs lost. I don't eat much anymore and I think my body is protesting by retaining weight. Bastard. I'll check in around June and maybe then I'll have an answer as to why I've been drinking. |
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03-22-2021, 06:08 PM | #223 |
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Congratulations on making it 3 months, that's a big accomplishment for anyone who has an addiction. Glad to hear of some health improvements, surprised to hear you aren't eating much though as most people I have met, myself included, tend to eat a lot more in the early days and particularly sweets. I hope the loss of appetite isn't due to another underlying issue that you aren't aware of. I know before I quit I barely ate then around 3 to 4 days sober I became a bottomless pit! I put on a lot of weight in the first few months then managed to drop all the unhealthy weight throughout the following year and have kept it off since. Hope you can keep it up and the appetite loss is just a temporary problem and not something worse.
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I have been struggling with neuropathy and pain/numbness in my feet, then I read the second leading cause of it is alcoholism . I think that really scared me into stopping. I've been good for about a week and a half now, I keep on truckin... |
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03-23-2021, 07:17 AM | #225 | |
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Some advice that was given to me early on was to take the time you were wasting on drinking and put it towards a healthier activity. I started running which ended up with obstacle course racing and then crossfit (which could be considered a cult/additicton all by itself ). Same for drinks, people look to replace the alcoholic drinks with something but often pick something unhealthy. Syrups (even sugar-free) and softdrinks isn't optimal (but obviously 1000% better than taking up drinking again ). If you're making a change anyway, try black coffee, tea, water, carbonated water. Sheesh, just writing that out I realize how boring that is... but it's a better long term solution I have an update actually, hit 10 years sober last week |
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